However, to acquire the status of Alpha, a female would have to kill a lot more other wolves than a male would. Sonya Rhodes new book, The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match, says that shouldn’t be the case.
Furthermore, to avoid an Alpha-male rising, the Alpha female must have the ability to bully, dominate and even kill the Beta males who insist on attempting to mate with her or otherwise demonstrate their own Alpha status. Rhodes aims to strip the Alpha of its gender clichés; she argues that Alpha women shouldn’t limit themselves to one socioeconomic group or a partner who shares their lifestyle. Common wisdom usually suggests that the alpha man is nature’s winner whilst the Alpha woman is a cold bitch (and the Beta bloke works in IT and still lives with his mum).
Here are just a few reasons why: She’ll always be 100% upfront with who she is.
You never have to guess if she’s putting on a front just to reel you in, because she doesn’t really care what you think.
When she’s not working her ass off to better herself, she’s enjoying life in the best ways she can.
She’s not the homebody type and would rather go out and be social, hike a mountain, or jet off on a trip to make fun and lasting memories than get into a sweatpants-and-couch rut in her relationships. She doesn’t need a man to provide for her in life, because she provides for herself.
We’re also incredibly stubborn, hard-headed, opinionated, and can be intimidating or misjudged by men.
Although the 30 woman (worn out/settled down/covered in parmesan and kid puke, if Bryony’s column is anything to by) may have given up her high maintenance ways, we 20-somethings are more demanding than ever.
I was recently described as being “not girlfriend material” and I blame the fact that I'm an Alpha woman. I'm also hard to impress, high-maintenance, volatile, easy to bore, and - shockingly, I know - single.
But those who’ve dated across those stereotypes know that’s not the case.
Alpha women, Rhodes argues, shouldn't aim for someone who mirrors their own behaviour, they should remember that just as Alpha women aren't demanding bitches, Beta men aren't necessarily passive wimps.