That marriage failed when she realized that she didn’t love me. We both have no doubt that we will be together until we die, at which point we will be separated. Even Milli and Vanilli are different—in fact, they aren’t even themselves.According to her, I will go to hell and she will go to heaven—or, in my version, we will be dead. I am not a woman who was born in San Jose, CA, grew up on a farm in upstate New York, matured in Washington, has six siblings, and is passionate about her family and her faith.I would consider myself very devout also, due to the fact that I have attended Catholic schools all my life and go to Church every Sunday.But I just started college this year and fell in love with an atheist man.Do you think the religious differences between us pose a serious problem?Personally, I could care less what other people believe as long as their hearts are in the right place.He COMPLETELY respects my religious views, and has never insulted me on my faith (except for when he's just teasing me - we like to tease each other on our faith differences).Also, I like discussing with him the difference of our beliefs because it has made me more confident about myself and my background. I have a two-part problem: We had pre-marital sexual relations (which I know is a sin).
Including why they believe anything and everything that they do.Can an atheist and a believer build a strong, lasting marriage? Her family loves me and everyone else says we're the perfect couple.There's just one catch: she's a strong Christian, but I don't believe in God at all. I came across this website while looking for help regarding interfaith dating.I am a Catholic who has been brought up in a strict Catholic family.Either way, we won’t be together anymore, and that’s sad. Rachel is a Christian and I am a heretical Jewish humanist. Christians and people of other faiths are different. I never will be that woman, and while I can understand her, empathize with her, feel pretty in her clothes, and love her deeply, I will never really know the depths of her experiences or the convictions of her beliefs.How can we fully be together when we don’t share the same spirituality? Christians of different denominations are different. No one will, except God (if you’re into that sort of thing). Not because I have some fancy Ivy League degree hanging on my wall, nor because I’m a published marriage counselor—no, I’m a marriage expert because I’ve been married twice. My first marriage was to a lovely woman of like-spirituality. I know this, because my second wife, an even more lovely Christian woman named Rachel, told me so.I’m a big believer in the school of you-don’t-know-it-until-you’ve-done-it. We were both humanists (which is a fancy term for do-gooder atheists) of Jewish descent. Rachel also told me that our marriage is a resounding success, and I believe her.Those are important ingredients when it comes to building a lasting relationship and laying a firm foundation for a successful marriage. It's an arrangement within which spouses have to learn how to cooperate, work together, and hammer out mutually satisfactory compromises.But in a situation like yours it's still important to think things through on a deeper level. Because in the final analysis the challenge you're facing is bigger than a mere difference of "religious opinion." It's not just a question of your willingness to "tolerate" someone else's beliefs. And when worldviews collide, the results can be devastating for a marital relationship. They have to do this on an almost daily basis, and in response to a wide variety of practical problems. As an atheist, you assume that there is no higher authority. As far as you're concerned, it's just a question of "what works." But your Christian girlfriend has a very different perspective.