Should I say, “Well, I don’t hook up right away, so most guys get bored with me, and that’s why I’m single!
” Or should I say, “I get really clingy around month three and it scares guys off, so here I am, solo!
When I started writing Ask a Guy, I had no idea that it would take off like it has.
I am grateful to have such loyal readers who contribute great questions to me.
However, you can still do a lot during those early stages of checking each other out to boost your odds of making it work for you!
But before we get started on When you first meet someone you are interested in, you can spend more energy trying to make sure that they like you, than thinking about whether or not you like them.(aka, "Why are you single: The Remix)This is one of those backhanded compliments that really has no response. As a Plus-Size Princess, I often wonder if the guys asking me out have dated big girls before (not that it matters, but I do wonder), and I’ve learned that the answer is rarely helpful.When men say this to me, it makes me feel like something is wrong with me — especially because 99% of the men who use corny lines like this will not make any moves to take me off the market. If his last three girlfriends looked like Jennifer Lopez, I may feel insecure, but if his last three girlfriends looked like Rebel Wilson, I might wonder if he’s a chubby chaser.A decade ago, it was still considered sort of creepy if you admitted to meeting someone online. People all over the world are striking up friendships and romances with people they meet online on facebook, in chat rooms or game forums, and via email and apps.In many people’s minds, meeting on a dating site or via email was an automatic strike against your chances of forging a serious, long-term relationship. Meeting online is now one of the most common ways to find a partner.I was having brunch with some girlfriends the other day, and we got on the subject of first dates. It's a generic question that breeds generic answers, and doesn’t really give you additional insight into who I am.While we all had different experiences, there was one thing we all agreed on: There are a few questions we are absolutely of hearing from guys on a first date. Asking me what I “do for fun” kind of makes me feel like I’m on an interview, not a date.But I have a confession to make: I don’t answer every question that comes into my inbox.I would love to be able to – I just don’t have the time. But on a positive note, I can offer the next best thing: A consolidated post all about answers to the most frequently asked dating tips and relationship problem advice questions that I see.Sometimes (okay, most of the time), though, first dates aren't smooth sailing.That doesn't always mean you're incompatible — just that we are humans, and dating can be awkward.