By Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S Dating seems to confound the even the most rational among us.
Dan, a 31-year old sociology professor put it this way, “I don’t know what it is about me, I can teach classes about the meaning of relationships, but I can’t seem to actually get one of my own going.
Dating a drug addict, as with dating anyone, comes with pros and cons.
Drug addicts, even if they have been clean for months or years, are difficult to trust.
Add in a drug-ridden past or present into the mix, and the relationship is not only stressful, but also very unpredictable.After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all – thoughtful, witty, responsible – and good-looking to boot.Then they drop a bomb: “I used to be a drug addict.” They may as well have said, “I’m married.” But does one partner being in recovery automatically spell doom for a relationship?Dating is a numbers game, the more potential spouses you meet, the better chance you have of finding a good one.Unfortunately too many people give up looking too quickly.I go on a few dates; maybe it gets hot with women or another for a while, but eventually just end up right back where I started… Usually I give up in frustration for a while, just to start all over again. Is something wrong with me or are there just no good women out there? An occasion when one socializes with a potential lover or spouse to communicate with and to understand each other better.The purpose of a date is to become acquainted with each other and decide whether to enter a relationship.Although it won’t be the same for everyone, maybe some of you can relate.If you’re romantically involved with a current or former drug addict, just know it’s not all bad.During dates, people often explore each other’s personalities, to discover whether or not they would be compatible together in a relationship.Dating experts advise that finding a suitable companion can take a lot of effort and easily be as time consuming and involved as a career move, not to mention hard on your self esteem.