Some of these stories have little nuggets of wisdom for if you’re trying to meet someone in Japan; some don’t.
Over the last couple weeks, I’ve sat down with friends (or Skyped) asking how exactly they met their Japanese boyfriend, so I could write this post on how to meet people in Japan.
At the same time, like folks in most other developed countries, Japanese people have been inundated with media from America and are avid travelers.
They are equally interested in Europe, and other parts of Asia like Taiwan, Thailand and Korea.
After a particularly gloomy weekend, I decided that some no strings attached action sounded a lot better than no action at all.
I joined Japan Cupid, a dating website and started combing through profiles of creeps, charisma men and thankfully, potentially interesting Japanese guys.
I did find Japanese guys very attractive, but they would never approach me, being notoriously shy around foreign women.
Fear not, scratch your head in bewilderment no longer – as myself, Grace (famous for her “My Japanese Husband Thinks I’m Crazy” story) and Martin of Asian Dating Monthly have put our heads together and distilled our combined two decades of Japanese dating experience to bring you these top tips, which will help you navigate the seas of romance in Japan.
And things only get tougher if you and your spouse metamorphose into your stubborn, grumpy grandparents.
“As time goes by, my foreign husband and I argue more and more over food.
After wasting months subtly pursuing a guy at work only to discover he had a girlfriend, I quit the Japanese way – and bento making, also described by my friends as a boyfriend magnet in Japan.
Two of my single western guy friends suggested online dating – as long as I wasn’t looking for anything serious.