The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.It’s not my place to judge, but everyone’s entitled to his/her preferences.
With the change of seasons, singles are calling and writing in record numbers seeking help and guidance with an achy pain and frustrated feeling. Just like you may do a spring cleaning of your wardrobe and check your medical health at the beginning of the season, it's also time for a digital checkup on the reasons why you're not successful with online dating, or any dating for that matter.Then there is the idea that her boss might see, or her friends, or her neighbors, or the guy at the gas station.The whole world sees her as desperate enough to resort to online dating.I would say that less than 10% of the people I write to write back to me. I write to all kinds of men who are both younger and older, of all races,single and divorced, etc, etc.and I’ve been very, very careful to use all of your tips, and I read your blog faithfully. I feel like I’m the ONE outlier who can’t make your tips work for me.Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.To get some insight into what women go through on these dating websites, I pulled aside one of my family members who I knew had spent some time on these sites looking for her future spouse. If you still don't find what you’re after, perhaps one of these pages can help. Try refreshing the page and, if that doesn't fix things, double-check the link in your browser's address bar.