The text messages to the 22-year-old Virginia woman arrived during the day and night, sometimes 20 or 30 at once. Police have charged Love's ex-boyfriend, George Huguely V, also 22, with first-degree murder and allege that he removed her computer from the crime scene as he fled. "The advances in technology are assisting the perpetrators in harassing and stalking and threatening their victims," Kirkland says.
Harassment is "just easier now, and it's even more persistent and constant, with no letting up," says Claire Kaplan, director of sexual and domestic violence services at the University of Virginia, which became the focus of national attention in May with the killing of 22-year-old lacrosse player Yeardley Love.
“My clients tell me everything, even sexual things,” Gopman said. It makes it easier for me to work with them.” Gopman limits her clients to 10 at a time—but her waitlist quickly fills up.Police were investigating whether Huguely sent Love threatening e-mails or text messages. In the case involving the 22-year-old who received 758 messages from her ex-boyfriend -- all unanswered -- the harassment led to stalking charges and a protective order, Kirkland says.Kacey Kirkland, a victim services specialist with the Fairfax County Police Department, has seen textual harassment in almost every form: Threats. Harassment by text is only one facet of abusive relationships, which often involve contact in person, by phone, by e-mail, and through Facebook or other social networking sites.“I started getting burned a lot, and it all kind of came back to text messages,” said Talbot.“There was nothing I was doing wrong on the date, but sometimes it was really hard to handle the texting part.”And that led Talbot, once the chief programmer for Mayor Michael Bloomberg’s Office of Data Analytics, to wonder: Can data solve the riddle of early-romance texting?He told her he liked her glasses and asked for her number, and then they parted ways.The next day, he texted the 26-year-old, “How’s it going?Wearing a fitted, dark suit and a similarly dark, open-collared shirt that hugged his physique, Toufic Moret met up with Cher Gopman at a rooftop bar in Midtown, Manhattan on Saturday night just past 10 p.m. In fact, Gopman was there to help Moret meet other women—Gopman is Moret’s ‘wingwoman.’ Gopman is otherwise known as the NYC Wingwoman, helping men—and a few women—all over the Big Apple find the love or relationship they want.The city’s surrounding skyscrapers started to light up as Moret gave Gopman, who is petite and cheerful, his undivided attention. After listening to Moret’s war stories she offers advice. In fact, she may be New York City’s biggest cheerleader for love.When Lauren Talbot broke up with her long-term boyfriend last year, she entered an unfamiliar digital dating scene.Some parts of it were good: Dating apps made it easy to meet people, and Talbot–who is 27 and has jet-black hair, wide lips, and a tendency to giggle over anything–excelled on face-to-face dates.