My girlfriend and I met on e Harmony, so I’ll be the first to acknowledge that online dating can absolutely be a worthwhile experience. I dabbled with it for almost , and prior to Melissa, the most memorable thing I came away with was a tome’s worth of craptacular dating stories.
Reasonably attractive girls, increasingly suspicious of—and awkward around—strangers don’t go “out” as much as they used to, less amenable to the prospect of being approached by “creepy guys,” even as men approach girls less and less.
Finding a woman who isn’t tremendously overweight is very difficult in my age bracket. Worse, being overweight is physically sickening to those who have packed on the pounds, men and woman alike. There is something of a rule regarding the Game of waiting – double the amount of time it took her to respond before a guy should give his response. Hell, why respond with something longer when she only sends me less than a dozen words? OK, she sends out lots of emails to the best looking guys and they don’t respond. The irony is that she admits to it and then can’t quite get her rationalization hamster up to speed. For all the women who read my blog and play games when online dating by delaying responses, don’t play games, especially if you don’t like when men do the same thing.
I will put up with quite a lot of emotional and mental bullshit in order to find a slender woman. I see that she has been online several times since I sent that message and I have actually paid a bit of money to Po F so that I can see if my outbound messages have been read. She’s over-valued herself in the sexual marketplace. If you delay responses, here is what we men are thinking: If you delay responses, you’re simply not worth the mental energy for us to spend a few minutes writing online messages because there are simply too many other women out there.
Online dating: It is not that hard, and yet so many people make it so hard.
I’ve been documenting OKCupid atrocities for a while now, and a lot of themes crop up in the terrible messages that daters send me for, um, critiquing.