Acts rudely or disrespectfully to others during the date.It never fails: I hear people say every day that they didn’t see the warning signs until it was too late.However I tried to convey their advice on this issue, behind me I could hear these wise elders shouting this lesson to younger people: Over and over, when it comes to marriage the elders point to decisions that completely ignore the evidence and show bad judgment.They believe there are a set of signs so strong and compelling that they tell you to get out of the relationship.If someone continuously judges you by your past and holds it against you, you might have to repair your future by leaving them behind.
Do not help them by acknowledging their negative behavior. Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy and serves no purpose in creating a better day today.And please note: For those of you already in a relationship, these warnings still apply.They are a diagnostic tool for deciding whether your marriage needs a fix (or an exit strategy).I’ve found in my clinical work with singles and couples that there are a few red flags that are more serious – or redder, if you will – than others. There’s no need to expand any further – you’ll know it when you see it, and you have to kick that date to the curb right away.If you break into a mild sweat as you read the list below, it can’t mean something good! There’s no question that dating can be stressful and intimidating, and that a little alcohol can help grease the wheels and put you at ease. Don’t overthink it – just do it and thank me for it later. Saying “yes” to an invitation for a date does not grant your date a VIP pass to your most private thoughts and feelings.Don’t waste your time with someone who only wants you around when it’s convenient for them.You shouldn’t have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you they will gladly create space for you. Some people will refuse to accept that you are no longer who you used to be – that you’ve made mistakes in the past, learned from them, and moved past them.It can even feel like too much work starting over with someone new.But deep down you may have a nagging feeling that something just isn’t right.Then when it didn’t work out they’d feel badly…about themselves.No, not the guy who said all of these offensive things or treated a woman disrespectfully.